Monday, August 11, 2014

A prayer for Jayleanna

My granddaughter Jayleanna is my late daughter Getzia's child.  She went back to her father's house on August 7, 2014.  She is so afraid of her father, that she began shaking and crying and screaming for me not to let her go back to that house after he threatened her on the phone that morning.  She said, "I know I'm in trouble, he will beat me, please grandma don't let me go back! "  My heart just sank on my chest. I called the police, and DCYF to protect my granddaughter, but no one would do anything unless there are physical scars.  

I have tried to have these people listen to me, but DCYF will not have it.  This has been happening since Jayleanna was 4 years old.  To them, I am only a grandmother, I don't exist.  For years, I have been telling them my child is in danger with this man, with his extensive criminal record and now a registered sex offender.   What is wrong with this picture?  What has this child done to have to be subjected to this abuse by this man, both physical and emotional? 

I will not stop fighting for her until somebody listens.  Until there is change in the laws of this state.   Until she is safe by my side. I will not lose hope.  

 I will be saying this prayer every day from now on.  I will also ask the angels to protect her.  You are not alone, Jayle.  Grandma's here and I love you with all my heart.

Hold her hand, Jesus

Hold Jayle's hand, Jesus, hold her hand.

          Walk with her in the valley of her loneliness/pain/anxiety/distress and sorrows.

          Hold on to her, Jesus,when she's too afraid to think about her tomorrows.

          Let her lean on you, Jesus, when  she’s too weary to go on.

          Hold her hand, Jesus, through her days and nights until she sees the dawn.

Hold her hand, Jesus, hold Jayle's hand…

Thursday, July 17, 2014

For you, my angel

Today we celebrate your life....

"The reality is that we don't forget, move on, and have closure, but rather we honor, we remember, and incorporate our deceased children and siblings into our lives in a new way. In fact, keeping memories of your loved one alive in your mind and heart is an important part of your healing journey." ~ Harriet Schiff, author of The Bereaved Parent

On your 9th Angelversary...

Today is my daughter Getzia's 9th anniversary in heaven.  As I think about her more and more, I miss her so much that it hurts sometimes.  I look at her baby Jayleanna, growing beautifully and resembling her mother in so many ways, and I am grateful for this wonderful present I was given.  I feel so blessed!

Today, I choose to celebrate her life.  She will forever be my daughter, even though she took a piece of my heart when she left.

Saturday, May 10, 2014

On your 31st birthday, my angel

Another birthday, another year,
With precious memories of one so dear,
Thoughts today of our lives together,
Hold a love that will live forever.

All my life I will miss you
As the years come and go,
But in my heart you will live forever,
Because I love you so.

It's been two days after your birthday, so this is sort of a belated birthday post.  Forgive me for not writing on that day; I spent the day in a sort of haze, between love and pain and the awareness of how blessed I am.  I felt so loved and appreciated by people who reached out to me on that day with loving kindness and compassion, especially by mothers who haven't lost a child, and whom I haven't met in person, but even though they might live far away, they reached out to me and showed me that I am not alone.  

They looked at your picture and commented on how beautiful you are.  And I felt so proud and so sad at the same time.  My beautiful angel, you took part of my heart with you and that part of my heart now lives in heaven.  And I know you are by my side always.  I can feel you, especially when I'm feeling down.  I can feel your arms wrapped around me, telling me not to cry, because you don't want me to cry.  Because you are finally free from the pain that encompassed your last days on earth.  So I think about that, and I know I will see you again someday, and I feel hopeful and I can go on.  But until that day, I will continue to love and miss you, my beautiful angel...